Thursday, August 20, 2009

I am girl, hear me blog

Lately I've been very reflective of the appropriate sequences in life. You know, grow up, go to school, fall in love, get married and then have kids. In the past month, I've been asked several times about my "relationship status." I simply say that I'm in no rush, because I've been inspired by some pretty amazing women ...

... women who have happened to live their lives a little out of sequence. Let's just say they were blessed with little bundles sooner than anticipated. Suddenly their responsibilities and daily activities changed completely. Priorities shuffled from work and school to bills and bedtime stories. But the biggest adjustment was how their lives were put on hold until their children grew up enough to feed and bathe themselves, at least. What astounds me is how these women grow up faster than anyone should have to.

Us girls have a tendency to "panic." Panic about being in a relationship. This isn't a man-hating post or even a pro-abstinence promotion. This is just me sharing feelings about how girls sometimes take themselves for granted.

Girls, think of your strengths. How many positive things in your life have your strengths brought you? Whether it's sports, writing, acting, whatever ... at some point your unique gifts have gained personal rewards in the form of a medal, good grades or even a simple pat on the back. In our youth developing aptitude can be more rewarding than being in a relationship.

Sometimes girls forget they have strengths and look for recognition from the opposite sex in ways the media portrays as "the only way." I'm talking about dumbing it down, wearing revealing clothing, the works. Personally, I think when girls act this way they cheat themselves out of great opportunites. Like opportunities for personal growth.

A boyfriend is a wonderful and natural thing. It's also a very special and important part of life. But it's nothing to stress over. Ladies, we are busy people, we don't have time to fix the world and flatter guys at the same time. Let them flatter you. Wise and self-confident girls stand out. If they are worth your time, they will be smart to pick out such traits. Think of it this way, you've only got so much time before you've got that magical band of gold on your finger. It won't hurt to spend a few years discovering as much about yourself as you can, before you have to share the next 65 years with that very special someone - and maybe several special little ones, too.
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Thirty and *gasp* single

It started about five years ago. Everyone – and we mean EVERYONE – got married. Being in a university sorority meant we knew a lot of women – some as close friends, some as acquaintances and some simply as recurring names in the endless stream of gossip that permeated our lives as part of the so-called “Greek system.” Back then we were like all the other girls – crushing, flirting, dating, crying, begging, breaking up, getting back together, falling in and out of love and, from time to time, daring to dream of our future weddings. What would the dress look like? How many bridesmaids would we have? And – most importantly – who would the groom be? We were all travelling the same path at that time; all puzzling over the complexities and emotions of “being in a relationship;” all wondering (and worrying) – when would that wonderful, white day, with its “I dos” and promises of everlasting love and happiness, come?

And then we came to that big, fat intersection. You know the one. You can either take a right, hit cruise-control and coast down scenic Wedding Way, where the sun shines and the birds sing and all the floral arrangements match the place settings or hang a left, shift into four-wheel drive and do your darndest to navigate Lonely Lane, a rocky, winding, unpredictable route fraught with potholes, landmines and seats at the singles’ table (it’s the one at the back of the room, in case you didn't know). Read more.